How do you greet someone on a first date? Do you keep things polite with a handshake? Presume a certain level of affection and go for a hug? Add a kiss on the cheek? Maybe avoid the issue altogether and just stick with an awkward smile?
I always thought I would be an absolute pro at dating. I had read all the books on the subject. Everything by Jason Evert, everything by Joshua Harris, and everything by Dawn Eden. I felt totally prepared. That feeling lasted until exactly five and a half months ago – the moment I actually started dating someone.
If you had to pick one defining feature of Christian dating, what would it be? Coffee-dates after the Sunday service? Leaving room for the Holy Spirit? Pondering how great you’d both be at married ministry? If I was going to pick just one, it would have to be “The List.”
Young Catholic men, we have a problem. It’s a problem that is going to require all of our courage, confidence and creativity to solve. It’s a problem that affects many of our friends; it might even be affecting you. Finally, it’s a problem that’s frustrating many of the beautiful, wonderful, young Catholic women in our lives.
Christians are good at a lot of things. The scientist who came up with the Big Bang theory, several of the greatest composers of all time, and the guy who invented Domino’s Pizza – all Christians. We’re a talented bunch. But when it comes to talking about sex, there’s one thing Christians suck at: analogies.
Recently I found myself sitting on a couch, listening to a couple of friends discussing the idea of marriage. Neither friend took what could be called a “traditional” view of marriage and it was probably mere moments before I began raining my Catholic opinion down upon them like the ten plagues of Egypt.