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Do Christians Need to Start Taking Gossip Seriously?

When was the last time a Christian you know worshipped the Canaanite god Baal? Personally, I’ve never caught someone in that particular act of idolatry. What about violence? When was the last time someone from church committed assault? Still pretty rare, but you might be able to think of an example or two. What about gossip? When was the last...

Why Are Adult Friendships So Hard?

Over the past three years I’ve lived in three different countries. This, I’ve learnt, is an excellent way to get rid of excess “stuff.” When you’ve only got two suitcase's worth of luggage, it’s easy to say goodbye to that sweater you never wear or the book series you finished three years ago. It’s also a good way to get...

How To Talk To Your Partner About Past Relationships

By the time Renée and I got engaged, we’d known each other for over 10 years. We first met at high school, had dated a couple of times during that period and we remained in varying degrees of contact in the years after.

Are We Too Distracted to Pray?

Fifty. That’s the number of times I pick up my phone each day. According to one study, it’s actually 46 fewer times per day than the average person. I’ll pick my phone up when I get a notification, when I need a small piece of information or when I want a distraction. Truth be told, I pick it up far...

What’s The Deal With Emotional Boundaries?

If you’ve been involved with Christian dating culture for more than a week, you’ve probably heard some variation of the term “emotional boundaries,” “emotional chastity” or “guarding your heart.” Emotional boundaries are like the Loch Ness monster of Christian dating. Everyone’s heard of them, but no one knows exactly what they look like or whether they’re even a real thing.

Why Church Online Just Ain’t The Same

If there’s one thing COVID-19 has taught me, it’s how much I can do from the comfort of my couch. I can work, order groceries, video chat with family far away, write this blog post and even ‘attend’ church. Church online is nothing new. Hillsong has an Online Campus with a specially designated Online Pastor (whose entire role, I can...

How Do I Know If I’ve Found “The One”?

For most people, deciding who they will marry is the single most life-defining decision they will ever make. As Tim Urban points out in his blog post How To Pick Your Life Partner, “when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion...

How Do I “Define The Relationship”?

In high school, we were all pros at defining the relationship. If you liked someone, you would ask him/her “do you want to go out?” This sentence didn’t literally mean “do you want to go out on a date?” That would be too straightforward. If someone said “yes” to going out, then from that moment on, they were now your...

How Do We Use Social Media Without Losing Our Souls?

A couple of weeks ago, when I logged into Facebook, I encountered a guy called “Nick.” Nick had commented on a post that I had been promoting, titled Are Christian Guys Not Taking Dating Seriously? Nick’s response to this question? “If you believe in religion and the god nonsense you have bigger problems than that you jesus loving nutter.” Huh....

How Do I Talk To My Partner About Porn?

When it comes to important conversations to have with your partner, there are a few obvious topics to cover – money, family, religion and so on. But one topic you might not have considered (or may be avoiding) is pornography. It’s a topic that has almost certainly impacted your partner. One study of 15-29yr olds found that 100% of the...