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What’s The Deal With Emotional Boundaries?

If you’ve been involved with Christian dating culture for more than a week, you’ve probably heard some variation of the term “emotional boundaries,” “emotional chastity” or “guarding your heart.” Emotional boundaries are like the Loch Ness monster of Christian dating. Everyone’s heard of them, but no one knows exactly what they look like or whether they’re even a real thing....

Why Church Online Just Ain’t The Same

If there’s one thing COVID-19 has taught me, it’s how much I can do from the comfort of my couch. I can work, order groceries, video chat with family far away, write this blog post and even ‘attend’ church. Church online is nothing new. Hillsong has an Online Campus with a specially designated Online Pastor (whose entire role, I can...

How Do I Know If I’ve Found “The One”?

For most people, deciding who they will marry is the single most life-defining decision they will ever make. As Tim Urban points out in his blog post How To Pick Your Life Partner, “when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion...

How Do I “Define The Relationship”?

In high school, we were all pros at defining the relationship. If you liked someone, you would ask him/her “do you want to go out?” This sentence didn’t literally mean “do you want to go out on a date?” That would be too straightforward. If someone said “yes” to going out, then from that moment on, they were now your...

How Do We Use Social Media Without Losing Our Souls?

A couple of weeks ago, when I logged into Facebook, I encountered a guy called “Nick.” Nick had commented on a post that I had been promoting, titled Are Christian Guys Not Taking Dating Seriously? Nick’s response to this question? “If you believe in religion and the god nonsense you have bigger problems than that you jesus loving nutter.” Huh....

How Do I Talk To My Partner About Porn?

When it comes to important conversations to have with your partner, there are a few obvious topics to cover – money, family, religion and so on. But one topic you might not have considered (or may be avoiding) is pornography. It’s a topic that has almost certainly impacted your partner. One study of 15-29yr olds found that 100% of the...

Where is God’s Providence Right Now?

This pandemic has really messed up my plans. These first few months of married life were meant to be all fun date nights, weekend getaways, and gradually refilling of our savings account.

When Should You Say “I Love You”?

The first time I said “I love you” to a girl, I was fourteen years old and it was over text message. I didn’t have a clue what the words meant. “I love you” just seemed like a good way to communicate the hormonal storm of warm, fuzzy feelings that I was experiencing. I definitely wasn’t talking about the love...

11 Things To Do In Self-Isolation (That Beat Binge-Watching Netflix)

For most of my adult life, I’ve been cultivating a special kind of to-do list. On it are things like “learn a language”, “take an economics class” and “drive a motorbike across the country.” If I had to give this list a name, it would be "Things I Will Probably Never Do, But Derive Pleasure From Thinking I Someday Might."

COVID-19 And No Longer Taking Life For Granted

A week ago, I began writing a blog post on the right time to say “I love you” in a relationship. Now, that post feels rather trivial. In the time since I started writing it, Australia has closed its borders, the United States has warned against gatherings of more than 10 people and the UK has closed schools indefinitely.