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Should Christian Couples Ever Take A Break?

“Maybe we should take a break.” In modern dating, it's not uncommon to take a 'break' in response to relationship difficulties. But should Christian couples ever take a ‘break’? Can a ‘break’ actually be good for a relationship? Or are you just running away from your problems and postponing the inevitable?

3 Things You Need To Do Before Starting a Long-Distance Relationship

Two months after Renée and I started dating, I moved 600kms away from her. For the next 5 months, our relationship was long–distance. We connected mostly over video calls, saw each other in-person once a month, and missed each other a lot. At the time, I didn’t really know what it meant to be starting a long-distance relationship, nor did...

What’s The Deal With Emotional Boundaries?

If you’ve been involved with Christian dating culture for more than a week, you’ve probably heard some variation of the term “emotional boundaries,” “emotional chastity” or “guarding your heart.” Emotional boundaries are like the Loch Ness monster of Christian dating. Everyone’s heard of them, but no one knows exactly what they look like or whether they’re even a real thing.

How Do I “Define The Relationship”?

In high school, we were all pros at defining the relationship. If you liked someone, you would ask him/her “do you want to go out?” This sentence didn’t literally mean “do you want to go out on a date?” That would be too straightforward. If someone said “yes” to going out, then from that moment on, they were now your...

When Should You Say “I Love You”?

The first time I said “I love you” to a girl, I was fourteen years old and it was over text message. I didn’t have a clue what the words meant. “I love you” just seemed like a good way to communicate the hormonal storm of warm, fuzzy feelings that I was experiencing. I definitely wasn’t talking about the love...

One Month Into Marriage

I’m a married man! Just over one month ago, Renée and I stood together at the front of a tiny Catholic church in Tauranga, New Zealand. We vowed to be faithful to each other in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love and honour each other all the days of our lives.

5 Things No One Tells You About Being Engaged

147 days. That’s how long Renée and I are going to be engaged for. Less than 5 months, all up, but thank God it's not a day longer. It’s not that engagement is bad. For us, it’s been a time of sharing our lives in a deeper way and looking forward to our future together. But it’s no fairytale. Engagement...

So, You’re Struggling With Physical Boundaries

When Renée and I started dating, the most important conversation we had was about physical boundaries. We talked about our commitment to save the gift of sex for marriage and the boundaries we wanted to set around virtually every other expression of physical intimacy in our relationship.

Long-Distance Relationships: We Answer 6 Core Questions

For five out of the first six months that Renée and I were together, our relationship was long-distance. We lived 600km apart and only spent one weekend every month together in the same city. Long-distance relationships are tough.

What Matters To You, Matters To Me

When Renée and I lived in the UK, we did a lot of travel on budget airlines. There airlines were crazy cheap – you could often get a seat to Dublin, Paris or Rome for as little as $30. But the seats were randomly assigned. If Renée and I wanted to sit together, we had to pay an additional $10....